Worlds Connect

I don't believe it's healthy to build your life around one person, not even your spouse. One person should not be your entire world. One person can't satisfy all your needs. Each person adds something unique to your life. (Or takes something away in certain scenarios.)

That being said, whenever you become close with someone, your worlds connect. If you care about someone, its inevitable. And it's a beautiful thing to get to know someone's family, other friends, co-workers, favorite restaurants, stores, etc. It can add so much to your life. Unfortunately, when relationships split up, from mild friendships to deep love stories, these things make life difficult. It's not just the relationship that's severed, but each piece of that person's world now becomes a gray area. Ideally, responsible people don't assume things; they ask a few questions, maybe; and they don't pick sides. But there will also be those who assume they have all the answers for the problem they didn't even ask about. Sometimes the splits are a result of awful situations, abuse, etc. and other times the relationship just wasn't healthy. Whatever the case, now there are people you're not sure how to talk to or if it's even a good idea. Places you used to go don't seem so welcoming anymore. People you thought were your friends were actually just their friend at the end of it all. So whether you set out to make someone your whole world or not, your worlds do connect. When your worlds split, it's hard. You have to go through the "We don't talk anymore" with people until they all find out. You realize all your lost expectations and dreams you had for the relationship. You grieve. You scream. You cry. You wish it were all a nightmare that you'll wake up from. It's not fun. I'm just realizing how much being in relationship with someone really connects your world to theirs. When that breaks, it's rough.

If you're ever around a relationship split, please don't assume. Don't think you know everything about a situation. That stuff hurts. Please...be kind.